To be honest, I struggle with the term "mental toughness." The word "tough" carries a lot of connotations for me, many of them rooted in judgment, about what we should be able to handle, how we should show up, and what it means to be strong.
A recent poll I ran asked: What comes to mind when you hear "mental toughness"?
Most people didn’t say "push through no matter what." They chose emotional awareness and resilience. That felt important.
We often hear that mental toughness is about powering through. Keeping a stiff upper lip. Staying strong no matter what.
But what if real toughness includes knowing when to stop, when to rest, when to ask for help?
A More Nuanced View
Mental toughness can include optimism and resilience, but it also leaves room for anxiety, burnout, and recovery. Struggling doesn’t mean we’re not strong. It might simply mean we need to recalibrate.
Some of the strongest leaders I know aren’t constantly pushing. They’re reflective. They set boundaries. They know when to tune in.
This week’s reflection questions are here to help you explore your own relationship with mental toughness and how it shows up in your life.
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Reflection Invitation
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When you hear "mental toughness," what does your body feel or remember?
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How do you respond to pressure, with self-kindness, or self-criticism?
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What would it look like to honour your emotions and stay resilient?
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Has your definition of mental toughness changed over time?
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When has rest or boundary-setting taken more strength than pushing through?
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A Small Next Step
Take ten minutes to reflect on these questions. Notice what feels true for you now, and what no longer fits.
With you,
Linda
Founder of Touching Distance
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